Which Woman Are You?
A Depleted Woman has no true sense of who she is. She is busy being everything to everyone and neglecting the one person who needs her most—herself. She is tired, run down, haggard, depressed and filled with a sense of hopelessness. She feels invalidated, unappreciated, unloved, unseen and unheard. She lacks joy, peace, fun and laughter in her life. Her day-to-day existence feels like a constant uphill battle and she may be dealing with health issues. She neglects proper self-care and nurturing and is therefore emotionally and mentally ill-equipped to properly nurture those she loves. She wears the mask of a woman who has it all together, when inside, she’s crumbling to pieces. A Depleted Woman has lost touch with her worth.
A Whole Woman is balanced and filled with a deep sense of love and appreciation for herself. She knows that by genuinely loving herself for who she is as she is, she has the capacity to love others fully with patience, care, compassion and forgiveness. This woman is fulfilled in all areas of her life, and even for those areas of life that are still in development, she has full acceptance for things as they are, knowing the best is yet to come. She knows who she is at her center and is able to maintain a true sense of authenticity even amidst life’s challenges. She’s not perfect and she still makes mistakes, yet she understands that becoming isn’t a destination, but a journey. She walks through life unmasked and radiant. A Whole Woman knows her worth.
A Confused Woman teeters between being Depleted and Whole. She has complete awareness that where she is and where she desires to be are incongruent, but she lacks direction on how to move forward and stay there. Once completely Depleted, she managed to elevate herself from that space, yet the lure of its familiarity is often irresistible. When life doesn’t go well, this woman easily dips back into Depletion, feeling sorry for herself and playing the victim. On the contrary, when things are great, she is optimistic, pleasant, buoyant and unstoppable. Her struggle is learning to let go of the comfort of Depletion while embracing the rewards of Wholeness. She cannot serve two masters. She knows she has worth but struggles to embrace it.
I'm In This With You
Real Talk. Some days I teeter between Depleted and Whole. It is a fact that I am a Fatherless Daughter, and for most of my life I let that define me. There was a time when I fully existed in Depleted. I am so very grateful that I have been able to pull myself out of a place I thought I was cemented to. I have begun to reacquaint myself with my true being, and it feels good. But I will admit, there are days when I forget or don’t want to show up fully. Luckily, I’ve learned how to not stay stuck, and you can too. Trust me, even though I’m a few steps ahead of you, I’m still right here with you.
Success In Shifting Mindset
Our minds are powerful. Far more powerful than most imagine. When I decided to finally get serious about getting in shape after starting and stopping the Body—for—Life Challenge multiple times prior, I had to dig deep in order to see the entire 12 weeks through and create a different reality. Just two years after completing and winning that challenge in the couples category, I had to dig even deeper to heal myself, naturally, of a scary diagnosis through the power of prayer, affirmations/mental fortitude, meditation (also mental fortitude), herbs and food.
Writing. When all else fails, it’s the one thing I know for sure I do well. In elementary school when teachers assigned a three-page paper, I easily turned in 10. Yea, I was that girl. In the 8th grade I received an Honorable Mention in an essay contest for the Berkeley Motion Picture and Television Council. I wrote a novel and found an agent who believed in me and shopped my book with New York publishers. When the book didn’t get picked up, I went back to school to hone my craft and I now hold a Masters in Creative Writing. I operated an online copywriting business once upon a time. My writing has appeared in local magazines, online, and I contributed a chapter in Champions Body—for—Life.
Take a listen at what I have to share about making a firm decision. It was in making a solid decision that changed the course of our lives.